Seven years ago, March 18 was a sunny, but cold Friday, and while many people were sleeping off their St. Patrick’s Day hangovers, I was driving to the hospital where I knew I would be told my breast biopsy showed cancer cells.
Why else the surgeon would have wanted to see me immediately? That day. Before she went on vacation for a week.
She took time off; I took a major detour.
So this is my cancerversary, a day I note each March in quiet gratitude I’m here to mark another year’s passage.
My life now is quite different from what it was on that chilly Friday.
No longer a full-time library manager, I am instead a retired librarian and part-time grocery associate at a local store.
When I realized I was looking upon my writing career as yet another thing I had to do, I stopped writing romance. I have only so many moments left in my life, and reasoned if I wasn’t making money at the endeavor and no longer enjoying it, the time had come to stop. Instead, I focused on making sure all my Cancer Lessons were re-written and posted on this blog.
Then, I started another one.
I also began working again on my family tree, I share here the first lesson in genealogy: It’s an endless pursuit because for every person you identify, there are two more to work on — their parents. I’m back five generations and still going.
Darling Daughter — who guarded me as I recovered from surgery by carefully timing my visitors — is a college graduate with a full-time supervisory position at a library (at 23!). She’s built an adult life and peopled it with friends, a book club, and a soccer team. It seems I’ve passed on not only my career field, but my shin guards too. And I’m only half-joking when I say she’s Kym 2.0.
Partly to fill the void she left, The Engineer and I started beekeeping (hence, the name of my new blog). It would be a good hobby to share, we thought, a new activity we could do together, one that would force us to learn something new.
It’s been that and more.
To answer your unspoken question, yes, the bees are still alive (so far). And no, we didn’t get any honey last year. For more, you’ll have to read The Byrd and the Bees.
People I don’t see very often still ask (in that oh-so-meaningful tone of voice), “How are you?”
The answer is “Just fine and hoping to stay that way.”
Physically, I’m much the same as before cancer. There are a few exceptions.
- My hair, eyebrows, and lashes seem thinner.
- If I stretch very hard, I feel my scars pull.
- I still wear a lymph sleeve when exercising or flying.
- I’m a little weaker, especially in my arms (for this, I can only blame me — for not being morally strong enough to force my lazy self to do push ups).
On a spiritual level, I’m better at remembering what’s important — family, friends, trying to stay healthy. If I occasionally lose focus of this, it’s not for long.
When I reflect on these changes, I wonder how many are the result of having had cancer, and how many are just because I’ve gotten older.
I don’t know.
I do know having cancer as a part of my past keeps me aware of how I spend time in the present. And remembering the friends I’ve lost to the disease reminds me I am fortunate to be here to ask that question.
I’m pretty sure they’d tell me not to waste my time worrying about it.
5 thoughts on “Life After Cancer”
The friends you have NOT lost to cancer would add their voices. We who have survived know what luck feels like. Whenever I feel grumpy about my leftover symptoms, I remember they are as a feather on the other side of the scales, weighed against the gold of another chance at life.
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Exactly. Constantly aware of how lucky we are to be here.
And I love the feather/gold analogy. So visual, yet so accurate.
❤️ I definitely cherish the people still here even more.
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Like faraway friends who make beautiful quilts for a good cause. 😉